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My husband thinks he too old to have a baby But what it IS, is dismissive and disrespectful of you. My birth was If he thinks it’s too soon, explain about your biological clock and how women have a certain window when it’s best to have children. g. He can lie thru his teeth and i just look at him dumbfounded. I’m a full time mom but I’m also employed full time, thankfully I work remotely however the company I work for is international and subsequently only got about 4 weeks of leave. I don’t think I’m too old, as I’ve seen He was always mistaken for my grandfather, but he could have been based on age, so it wasn't too outrageous for people to think that. Yes that’s right – another baby when we are, in fact, old enough to be grandparents! I'm 38 weeks and aged 28 years, my partner is 42 and we're on baby number 1 together, he already has an 11 year old! I asked whether I was allowed to have anymore after My bf says I’m too old to have a kid but won’t adopt, making me feel useless as a human. You still have plenty of time 😊 My parents had my brother and me a little later in life (I'm the youngest and my mom was 37 and my dad was 41 when I were born). Sometimes At a week old I woke my husband up at 2am and said, “I understand why someone would shake their baby,” he immediately got up, took her downstairs and handled her until probably 6am. My husband was 26, so he already got to have his whole, fun college experience. I guess I will have to figure out why he called me ugly specifically and not any other word. I've viewed early 30s as the sweet spot for babymaking since studying human biology and medical anthropology in college, but there I'm the eldest daughter of a 21 year old mother. It is best to nip these kind of behaviors in the bud. ” Just be the best parent you can for whatever time you have. My husband is 42 and I'm pregnant with his first baby. Hi everyone, I am 25(f) married to 36(m) for 6 years. 5 yrs old), I am a stay at home mum who does EVERYTHING in the house and in the evening most of the time I fall asleep before 9. My MIL is nice but we don't have anything in common, so there isn't much to talk about when we visit. We have 4 year old twin girls now, i think babies born to older parents can be better, having more life experience and patience with them. I've had to tell him, that yes I still love him (most of the time!), yes I still think he's attractive (kind of!), and yes I do still enjoy sex - I just don't have the energy!!! I was in a similar situation to you a few years ago. It is the easiest relationship I have ever been in. I’m 32 weeks and very excited. But I see how he reacts whenever Kaylee calls or rings the bell. I had mine at 31 and 33, I ended up leaving their dad when they were 3. Not at all! I was with my first husband 18 years we actively tried for 10 years, no baby. 34 is not old at all. He has been to the emergency room five times the doctor about once a month for a year. I have brought this conversation up a few times and it ends the same way. Of course, he may not see grandchildren and may not be quite as fast along the touch line as he'd like, but there are Some anecdata from my own life: My best friend and I have now had both of our pregnancies six months apart from one another at 37 and 39. husband 40. I work out and eat well, although I should probably cut out the booze. they're going to be 69 [for example] when their kid graduates from high school!" Personally, I don't think I'd be My husband is always respectful and I don’t think he would ever cheat. He My husband is always respectful and I don’t think he would ever cheat. I Last night when we were laying in bed getting ready to go to sleep, I asked my husband why he thought we hadn't had sex in a while/been intimate with each other. The Original (Feb 03, 2023). I have my husband back, but my whole world was still upended, and I just wish he'd never taken that stupid test. We've been together 4 years & I'm within a stone of the weight I was when we met. My aunt had her youngest at 43 as well. Check flair to determine if you want to read this update. I am 37 weeks pregnant He’s in the Air Force and just got back from 10 months ago. Last night after therapy, my husband told me that he thinks he may be polyamorous. Most submissions in this sub are not posted by the original author (OOP). Just before her 41st birthday, a woman in the U. My Dad was never home, was a womanizer and a drunk. When I woke up they two of them were asleep on the couch, her nestled on his chest (I know I know not safe sleep), and that 4 hours I asked him why he thinks he's too old and he mentioned how at almost 40, he doesn't have the same energy as he had when he was 20 and I need someone in my age bracket. But yesterday morning he just called me Skip to main content. I didn’t actually ask him right away his age because I assumed he was in his late 20s. He does seem to have a strong need to be everyone’s favourite Edit: To all the profile-lurkers, my husband is no longer a moderator, and has a (real) job now FYI. me to try fertility treatments, IVF, adoption, or fostering. I'm sure, to my husband, it seemed like I should be able to leave How to tell my husband he’s putting too much on me after giving birth . It happened while he was gone and stopped a month before he came back. We have been together 7 years. My husband is negative too. When you want another baby, but your husband isn’t on board, you must understand where he’s basing his views on. So he wasn't much of an active fun dad or anything And then he died when I was a teenager, so there's that too. My ex-husband has not asked to see my daughter for the past week. 1) Own your wish to have a child instead of hinting. You are still young, go for it. I have done everything to try to convince him otherwise short of getting a paternity test. Lately I’ve felt that I’ve had to defend or argue everything I say or do. His family started with the racial comments and eventually he started doing it too but only through my family, he refused to speak to me directly. Not saying I didn't have bad days but in general it was easily manageable . Husband keeps blowing up my phone, saying let’s “talk”. You are not too old to have another baby without him. The 44-year-old mum of a With me in my late 40s and him not far shy of 60, he’s suddenly decided we should have another baby. ” All My Husband Cares About is Money “I just read your post about family financial meetings,” it continued. He openly describes how he baby trapped me when we first met. We already had two relatively high maintenance dogs (that HE had That's how I took it too. I was clueless and desperate, a college dropout with a baby only six months old, living with my parents. Also you are not too old to have kids. We both have really struggled to connect with him. Online he’s saying how I ruined his youth by trapping him with a baby. He loved getting me gifts because I was appreciative and he likes seeing me in things he got me. The wife of one of his friends is pregnant and they were talking about it, and I heard perfectly how my husband said that pregnancy is the "best thing that happened to me" because he finds me much hotter now, that "I was never more beautiful than when I was pregnant and now after giving birth" and if he only had said that I would be flattered At first, his behavior might have been fun and entertaining. I Yes maybe he’s cheating, but my guess is he’s immature and had a wake up call and is now blaming his wife to deflect from his own responsibility. And wouldn’t you know it, we’re having a boy lol Poor guy can’t win. On my husband's side My mother had my younger brother at 36, and my aunt had her youngest at around 40 I think, so maybe genetics are on my side. I was so happy to see him, we didn 1. He’s going to have moments where he makes you feel less of a priority. No, he was not. The wife of one of his friends is pregnant and they were talking about it, and I heard perfectly how my husband said that pregnancy is the "best thing that happened to me" because he finds me much hotter now, that "I was never more beautiful than when I was pregnant and now after giving birth" and if he only had said that I would be flattered since not many men would say We have 2 boys (5 and 3. My husband said he understood my desire for more children but he was firm in his decision. I just left, couldn’t muster any words. He was, of course, an old man by time I was old enough to do anything fun. Expand user menu Open settings menu. Reply reply That turned out to be the key for making my baby (born when I was 38). My husband has been really struggling with having a newborn. We said it was fine, as long as she gave us a notice before she turned up. He’s the only boyfriend I’ve ever had. It’s been 5 years and I just wish he would get it in gear I don't know how this happened, but a police officer came to our house and took our statements, and we're suing the hospital where I gave birth. He hasn't bonded with the baby much at all and actually told me things were so bad for him that he regretted My husband (39M) wants suddenly a baby, but I (38F) feel too old for one. His childlike behavior might have My kids are 4 and 6. As long as you can see he’s trying, then you’re on the right track. If his problems are with Yasmin, then he can be a grown-up and discuss it with you without using the food excuse. he changes diapers, bathes him, feeds him, etc all without being asked. It sounds like my childhood was a lot like the one you're creating - we camped a lot, spent weekends at the public lake, etc. I am not going to go into the years, and years of shots, treatments, injections, and close to $100,000 of our He probably felt it too else he wouldn’t have come back. My kids are all amazing, smart and lovely humans. Moat babies eyes start dark then quickly get lighter . He didn't like that I did it, but he apologized for making me upset. The upside is a child free life is more conducive to travel, etc. My mom makes breakfast and lunch if I'm still at work. So call it out for what it is. However, for him to say that he thinks he's smarter than everyone around him, including me, is just too much. One day, we got new phones, maybe 7 years ago, I found out I can read his texts. Honestly, it is too young and my parents were basically stuck with each other in spite of my dad being quite a big drinker and very selfish with money. Three days ago I moved to Former “Miss Michigan USA” Stacey Lee Spratt and her husband, television personality Dalen Spratt, join Portia at the table to share their beautiful love I instantly took it to heart because he doesn’t even think of me that way. Go to your parents, find a women's shelter/house My husband is the same as yours attractive, successful, a great dad and husband, and it just feels like everything my husband does for the family is widely respected and admired where me doing the same things (having a good career, being a good mom, sacrificing my body to have children) isn’t appreciated in the same way, or seen as the bare I'm married to a homebody and agree at least for me. Idc anymore I’m in a nice routine with my daughter. I do too, but not like he does. Which, yes, I picked my mom because she was a labor and delivery nurse for 30 years and I want her there because I feel she would be a better advocate if I need one. Not everyone can tolerate having an overweight wife. Even though I would ideally not want a baby at that age I would have considered it. I’m calling my Dad in the morning to I wonder if he thinks he can get away with being more of a jerk because you had a baby and he thinks you're stuck with him. Now with this second baby he really wanted another girl. Just a week ago she asked him to pay some of her bills because she doesn’t have a work now. I am NOT the Original Poster. I think that is plenty of children. It makes me wonder how often he lies to me. I'll listen to him on the phone and he doesn't miss a beat. Single dad of 3 children here. . Do not comment on the original posts. Then I started reciprocating with a close friend or family member. But she’s concerned it would be ‘wrong’ at her age. NTA on your question. He's in the Military so half the time I was on my own He now has 3 kids under 5 and some days I think he prays for death just so he can rest 🤣 I think 50 is it. Her husband was over 50. I am dealing with some serious resentment against my husband and wanted to get ya’lls take. true. He too is the kind of person that if you have some sickness he does to. He's savvy. Reply reply More replies. Trigger Warning: abuse, child neglect Mood Spoiler: bleak, especially in light of the edit Original Post: October 4, 2023. He doesn't think OP was actually ugly, pre-baby. decided to start in vitro fertilization (IVF) and become a solo mother by choice. Your husband is being I'm done having biological children. She posted in r/relationship_advice. So he felt maybe pressured to say something in the moment (immature). My husband is generally good at meeting the baby's basic needs e. So Mom left for 3 days and wasn’t in contact with him My Husband helped by picking up after himself (he isn't a child) , some lawn care when I didn't have time to get to it and snow in the Winter when it was too much for one person. This isn't about leadership or being protective; it's about control. The doctor advised me to press charges against my ex husband. Too cocky. My husband works from Maybe I’m wrong, maybe it’s just my expectations, but my husband just isn’t improving to my standards. He insists on being the dominant partner A selfish husband often demands to take charge of everything. Log In / Sign Up; I was in a similar situation to you a few years ago. I love him to pieces, he’s a fantastic father, a mediocre/ pretty decent husband and a pretty crap partner. He was an older man, he was estranged from his first wife at the time. I told him exactly what I did and why. I don't know what to do. He thinks it’s easy cause he’s never done it by himself. Talk to your husband. No wonder she feels like he might have unpure feelings for the woman. The only trouble he gets sometimes is that people think he's her grandad other than that he's a When your adult child tries to engage you through shame with pressuring demands, when your adult child is emotionally abusive, or when your adult child fails to acknowledge your love and/or the I have always took the test with my husband. You could put it in a card. That is u/ThrowRa_thw. Reply reply more replies. She said she didn’t know why she did it, maybe she was just too lonely and my husband was just “available”. i was exclusively breastfeeding and not pumping for a while so he wouldnt be able to help feeding the baby but he would change his diapers and bring me things i may need, even a cup of watet lol. He's still in shock that I have the guts to do it. You could get him some kind of cheeky "dad" gift or #1dad mug or whatever. He'll get Neither of us have. Normal age. My husband was really ugly when he was 7 too, (he said so himself), looks aren’t everything and kids Please read our sub rules before commenting or your comment may be removed. I said yes and he went to bed. We would probably only test and then take some TTC supplements. I assure you that he wasn't a good husband or father. If you're wondering how old is too old to have a baby, you may be surprised to learn the facts about fertility, age, and alternatives to natural conception. As for thinking he doesn’t deserve you, it’s just his internal head game taking over. I'm 5'8" & a size 16. We have gone twice and have both agreed that it helped enlighten us on some issues and is giving us tools to communicate better. Because my parents have passed they think all my time belongs to them, although I am very close to my siblings and other family. Another thing that our husbands have in common: My husband exaggerates for sympathy as well. My first thought is that something must be wrong. If he thinks you’re amazing show it! Figure out your goals, regardless of what your husband says. When Joe mentioned one day that he didn’t think he would ever want to get married or have kids, Eleanor brushed it off, confident he would change his mind. My mom had my brother at 26 so seems crazy that she thinks I am too young for a baby. But she does not have visa to move to Canada, she is 56 years old he is 49, so I think he is misusing her to abuse me emotionally. I think you husband would benefit a lot from understanding kids development and trying to put himself in their shoes. I go in Friday to talk to my doctor about if I’m healthy enough. His coworkers thought his oldest had had a baby when he was first seen carrying our son's carseat to his I think 43 is too old, sorry. But seriously, if the “feeling” you’re getting is because he’s treating you like you’re stupid, that’s something worth exploring. I remind him constantly and to some extent he knows he has things to learn, but he also thinks I’m too soft. Stopped pretty much right away. 2 advices which won’t solve the situations, but will help, in my opinion. I don't know what happened to my baby, and that is terrifying. I used to have much more energy. I can even tell you the exact moment that I realized it because it was a couple years ago I came out of Hobby Lobby with my son (before my daughter was born) and someone had hit my car when they backed out of their space when I Hi. I asked why he would say those things if he actually didn’t think I was materialistic or vain or self obsessed. He also lies like he believes it to be the truth. Here the thing though my husband sleeps until 9am and my mother takes care of our daughter until he gets up. We don't have petty arguments, and whenever a real problem crops up (there have been Update: I've talked with my husband about the situation. 5 year old, 1. He's going to have the opposite effect he's wishing for. He got me pregnant, and things have been fine until now. Not sure if my kids will really remember them. I’m still trying to process this in my mind while typing this out. He may actually think that since babies are meant to be with mothers, Me and oh tried for years before seeking help to have IVF, we are both now older parents. I told my husband how frustrated i am and he was even more upset and disappointed because im being unreasonable he said. My cousin married at 45 and got an "oops" baby at 47. 1K votes, 762 comments. If you’re both serious about each other you will make time and support each other. I explained the situation. Originally posted in A I T A but was removed by the mods. He does like spending time with me though. I'm 38 and my partner is 50. I'm TIRED. It’s 2022, get with the program. Joe helped too; he worked ten to 15 hours a week as a Ask him if he thinks you’re smart. He is not a rich man (I'm only including that information because that is the stereotypical May-December romance situation). r/relationship_advice A chip A close button. My husband has been complaining about how hard it is for him and acts like I'm gone at a friend's house all day. Forget about exposing yourself publicly. Let him know how you feel. I feel guilty that I have to go to work, My ex-husband is calling me at three in the afternoon. If you think this submission doesn't belong on the sub, is incorrectly flaired or have other issues regarding this post, reply And if your are not careful, certain routines can form such that your husband thinks he can act out. He eats poorly, doesn’t have a good hygiene routine and has no passion for the future. 5 and 22 months but I had built a decent career by then (MSc CS -> software engineer) and it made a huge For context, my husband and I have a 10 month old baby. My husband used to do this too. I don’t wanna talk. Otherwise, you should work on coming to terms with the fact that he’s allowed to think he’s smarter than you. " You tell your husband you think he’s too friendly with a coworker. When the fact if the matter is I My husband retired January 2020 and had been sick every since. Even if the wife is overreacting, it is because OP gave her very good reasons to do so. He can see mine too, but he didn’t know about it. Everyone outside of our immediate family would call him a great guy. We have 3 kids. Pregnancy at an older age carries risks for both the mother and baby. So no, i think it's a good thing being an older parentx. My husband(38M) doesn't think I(39F) love him. But because he was so inarticulate about what he was trying to express that it came out nonsensically: that he finds you so beautiful now as the mother of his child, that your earlier beauty pales in comparison. In fact, he always complimented me and what I do for him. I’m not ready to fire her unless I get solid evidence of my husband cheating. What I don't do is act like a giggly schoolgirl with a crush when I'm around them and make the whole thing uncomfortable for my husband. Since we have gotten into more of a routine, I have noticed that the past few years he hasn’t really commented on my appreance even when we go out (I’m not normally a hair and full face Hey all, I’m a stay at home mom to my 2. My husband and I bought a house last year which has its own indoor swimming pool. (I did need IVF for my first pregnancy, but that was a sperm quality issue. Which I already had figured. He wants the final say in decisions, big or small, and dismisses your opinions. Reply reply msheartofmusic • There’s an AskMen thread recently that was asking husbands He said he didn’t think I was materialistic or vain. He said he doesn't think I'm dumb, it was just that he was trying to relate to his friend. Held my son and was so caring to us at the time. Every child i know adores him. I don't think it's too old to have one, depends if you would like to A mum-of-two says after finding love with a younger man, she’s desperate to have a child with him. My mother left her second husband because he was "boring. I think the cute bikini, some tight shorts, and some lower cut tops are a good compromise. I I asked her why. I think men other than my husband are attractive. Update - I found out that I have a 6 year The only way their ages really affected me: I had my first baby at 27, and wish I started a bit earlier. We have a 7 yr old and 3 yr old. My husband and I are 28. For another, if he would have gotten off his lazy ass and found a job, you wouldn't have had to work yourself to the bone, and wouldn't have been too tired to spend time with him. Scumbucket22 • My service dog has saved my Some old parents are so remarkable they make the news. I feel that I wasted all of my life with a man that never wanted the same as me in life. He thought my love for my hobbies was cute and inspiring. Reply reply fur74 • At 41, My husband and I have been married for 3 years and together for 5. My (29M) husband doesn’t think he’s the father of his kid and thinks I (28F) am lying. I had a routine and the kids had a bedtime so I never really felt overwhelmed . Our son had it too so I also had to take him to the doctor and they gave him medicine for it. Husband and I have been together for 6 years married for 4. I’m at a motel right now, feeling my baby kick. When we first meet, the attraction was off the charts! He would always compliment me and ask how he got so lucky. Members Online. I’m 15 years old I want to have a baby am I too young? All i’ve ever wanted to do ever since I wuz a kid is to have a baby i’m finally able too and I want one realy bad is there sometin I can buy to predict when I ovalite or is My 9-month-old is bonding with our nanny so strongly that at night he cries for her. He just needs to flip this mentality on its head. Also, it took 9 months to create a human being. Stream #PitBullsAndParolees My husband says I'm too fat to have sex with & he deserves a good sex life with someone slim & attractive. If I had no kids I would probably put my upper limit at 40-42. My brother thinks having kids while you're young will ruin your life. My SIL was super excited when she saw it and asked if she could use it sometimes with her friend. More replies [deleted] • Comment deleted by user. My bestie's husband has used this line on her too. Ughhh I'm sorry you're going through this, but I'm glad you're not ashamed of your daughter looking back idk why, but hey, it got me through school. I've been sleeping in my When your adult child tries to engage you through shame with pressuring demands, when your adult child is emotionally abusive, or when your adult child fails to acknowledge your love and/or the S ometimes it can be challenging to really understand what our spouses mean when they say certain things. Me 43, husband 52. I also have two kids and I'm dating a woman with a kid. He hugged me tighter About Press Copyright Contact us Creators Advertise Developers Terms Privacy Policy & Safety How YouTube works Test new features NFL Sunday Ticket Press Copyright Hopefully, you’re able to articulate this feeling to him and let him know it hurts to be alone and it’s frustrating not to have help and support with your child. And btw he doesn't have to like your friends. Mom thinks we should both have permanent jobs. I kind of went quiet and he was like “are you tired”. I hope considering that makes your skin want to crawl off your body, because you KNOW your baby deserves better, and you do too. Its becoming a habit and i think she’s too old to be asking him for support and this needs to stop. He does know how emotionally abusive my dad was/is to me and he does know my dad called me that. I adore my grandchildren and that particular grandchild really loves to spend time with me. Relatively content marriage - but I knew I didn't want to have children with my husband because I felt he was just too immature/self-centered to handle the intensity of parenting - at least the way I would want in a co-parent. He compares every feature and points out things that he thinks doesn’t match either of us. K. Former “Miss Michigan USA” Stacey Lee Spratt and her husband, television personality Dalen Spratt, join Portia at the table to share their beautiful love He said that I have my mom here and I picked her to be in the delivery room instead of him anyway, so it's not like he could be there for emotional support. For reference, let's call my husband Jack and my daughter Lily. I am super close with my siblings, I couldn’t imagine not giving my son that relationship. I've had to tell him, that yes I still love him (most of the time!), yes I still think he's attractive (kind of!), and yes I do still enjoy sex - I just don't have the energy!!! Update to my First Two Posts: My husband (M35) thinks I (F32) baby trapped him despite the baby being planned - please help! You can get advice on potty training, talk about breastfeeding, discuss how to get your baby to sleep or ask if that one weird thing your kid does is normal. The newborn phase is not our thing at all. You may have to insist on having some time to yourself to relax and enjoy the holiday. He said he was just joking. When I got Stanley is 31 years-old & has been obsessed with being an adult baby for the past 18 years. Tell your husband my husband said he’s a baby back bitch if he thinks “no husband gets up with the baby”. Maybe some parenting classes or family therapy. Ask why the joke is funny because you were hurt by it. He’s always had low self esteem. I waited one more year, at this time my son was 4, and he was still an adamant no. Before I got pregnant I met a man (I think he's in his early fifties) at work and you could say that he's a little too friendly, for example he liked to buy My husband (41m) and I (33f) have been together for 8 yrs married almost 6. I asked him to take my dad’s offer (he offered to help him find a lease on an apartment and pay 1/2 years rent if he moved out without giving me problems. A year on, Emma James now has a son, Leo, and has documented Former “Miss Michigan USA” Stacey Lee Spratt and her husband, television personality Dalen Spratt, join Portia at the table to share their beautiful love High risk can also refer to conditions the baby may have or situations where the baby may not grow well inside the mother. adoption, or fostering. Ah the old “I work so don’t have to do anything” defense. What really took the cake was just yesterday he said the timeline for conception does not When I got pregnant, I was only 20. My (24F) husband (31M) and I have three children, our sons look exactly like him (dark skin and dark eyes and hair) but our daughter doesn't, she looks exactly like my With his food obsession and controlling behaviour, he risks sending you either into binging or an eating disorder. Everyone is equal. He may be resistant. I took her to the hospital and they found signs of neglect. Your husband thinks he wants it, but carrying fantasies too far often leads to jealousy and anger. Those would be my main regrets. He charmed my parents. same thing is happening with your baby. He and my mom had us kids close together and at one point we were 3, 2 and newborn. I do not think 24 is too young to have a baby, but it is worth mentioning that our brains do not finish maturing until mid to late 20s. I've had to tell him, that yes I Sit his ass down and tell him to never think like that ever again cause your baby girl might pick up on sub-concious body language. I am not the OP. I want to preface this to say my (27F) husband (27M) and I are attending marriage counseling currently. I am extremly heartbroken over it. It will take at least 9 months to get your pre-baby body back. Open menu Open navigation Go to Reddit Home. He wanted to continue Now I'm coming home around 12 ish. Never to the point where he would have been unhappy with a girl, but he had a preference. Many women have babies at an older age without having issues. When he leaves tomorrow take what you can't live without and leave. You can also mention exciting things I really think it is-I had a baby at 20 and I look back on it now and know I was too young -My husband and I were married young 19 and 21 and we had a great marriage mostly because he was very mature and patient-I also had a baby at 26 and I was much happier,mature,more calm and relaxed with her -Give your relationship some time to grow-Thats my feeling anyway Anywayy my family seems to think that we are too young and judge all of my choices. I say this at I’m 24 years old and my husband and I are enthusiastically expecting our first baby girl. He has a strep throat and the medication he started today has been making him feel better. I don’t think we would go as far as seeking IVF or the like. You could surprise him in lots of ways. Have a kid at 50, you’re 75 when they’re 25 any older than that and you’re going to miss all their good years, and be too old to be an involved dad. He is a diabetic. The idea has crossed my mind but I think my “My husband is selfish, selfish, selfish,” the email began. Literally everything, it’s like he’s my dad. 30-year-old user aed89 had been dating her 29-year old boyfriend for nine months, and living together for three months, when they had He drinks water but he sweats it out because he has been sick. my husband refuses to look for a job even though I think it would be good for him (And we could use the additional income), but he just We have a baby monitor near the kid’s bed. more replies. He has a 16 and 18yr old and now we have a 3wk old. He excused himself from work, drove 4 hours back to be with her in the delivery room (think he made it just in time to see me born), stayed for a few hours, personally encouraged my gran (mum’s mum) to move in with her so she wouldn’t be alone (my maternal grandparents ended up living with us for the next 7 years - was great!) before driving 4 hours back to work to be there My husband never said anything mean to me before. I'd say go for it. However, my husband have tried everything, exhausted every resource to have a family. 3 weeks ago he went through my phone and saw Facebook messages from last year, he is now convinced our baby isn’t his. Avoid getting too focused on having your partner see My husband really wanted a boy with our first. I think it was because my friend was there and called him a young baby when he was hitting on me. At our age I just don’t think we need to seek intensive medical intervention. My dad pulled that too. I think it was because he saw that we have a friend with a baby 9 days younger, and she and her husband were constantly going out and having fun. I don't think there is an age that's "too old". He is monstrously ignorant in the highest degree if he thinks that creating a human being doesn't alter a I talked to my husband too and asked him not to make the separation difficult and bitter that it ruins all the happiness we felt being together because we cannot think back on 1/3 of our lives with resentment. My husband (27m) and I (26f) have been married for almost three years. OOP is u/ThrowRATucanTucans, who posted in r/relationship_advice after her first post was removed from AITA and on her own profile. No-one thinks he's too old. He was in his early 70s. We make a good team together. He has been known to take them too far at times and I don’t know what to think. Dad complained he wasn’t getting enough attention and Mom was focusing too much on the kids. They also focused on keeping themselves healthy and now they're in their 70s and don't have any problems keeping up with My husband (M35) thinks I (F32) baby trapped him despite the baby being planned - please help! (Not OP) Story Repost Archived post. He said no, he really did not want another child. Jack and I've been married for about ten years, dated for five, and have a four year old. It’s been 5 years and so many things that I’ve wanted him to change he still does. “He says, his money is his. So he was always in on the pee and wait processlol! I think this is a fun opportunity though. He rambled and changed the conversation. Boohoo, you have to wake up once or twice with the baby. New comments cannot be posted and votes He’s going to have slip-ups. I even caught him quietly telling my 3 year old grandson that I was a witch. So put some distance between you and . You think your kids would ever say “my dad was too old I wish I was never born. My husband will be 49 when we have our first. He didn’t mean to be overheard. Now that she’s 5 weeks old I constantly get little jabs about how shocked he is that she came out with white skin or “jokes” about it not being his baby. If he says no, then come back and try this again. Pranking each other has been something we do especially early in our relationship as a bit of fun. “Your family meeting sounds like a great I am a 28-year-old woman who is dating a 50-year-old man. Sometimes Stanley is 31 years-old & has been obsessed with being an adult baby for the past 18 years. My husbands family ritual ways take priority over mine. One of my previous colleagues was 42 when he became a dad (his partner was older too, maybe 38). My husband commented that I was obsessed with my baby at some point too (she's 2 now, so I'm not sure exactly how old she was then). It's insidious. He hated it. And stop this instant about feeling guilty for ignoring this butthurt manbaby - for one, he could have used his words to address the issue with you. Maybe back in 1920 when women were forced to be homemakers and moms and that’s it. Ten years after Hurricane Katrina devastated New Orleans, one of the canine survivors finally got a shot at a forever home. 5 year old and am due with baby 3 next week. ” My breath catches in my I asked him why he thinks he's too old and he mentioned how at almost 40, he doesn't have the same energy as he had when he was 20 and I need someone in my age bracket. He responded that he thinks it's because of lack of time, to which I responded, I don't see that being the problem, we always have time at night (baby is 1 and sleeps 12 hours at a time). Change takes time. My husband and I have been together for over 10 years. While these sorts of cases are still You know the kind. I have spent the entirety of my 20’s making sure they are well-balanced and that they have a great childhood. If you already have certain goals about your body When your husband says you’re fat, he probably struggles to be physically intimate with you, although he still loves you. By insisting on dominance, he might use subtle tactics to undermine your confidence I’d have to agree. I think boring is an unfair description. It is not too late. He has had every test known to man and he still says he is sick dizzy and has a headache. I mentioned this and how I think he doesn’t think I’m pretty. He's unbelievably energetic, in good health and fitness, in a very senior job and we're lucky to be financially secure. 9) Consider Counseling. I think he might be jealous. No judgment, no anger, just let me sleep for 4 straight hours. One day he will when i had my 1st bio (it was his 3rd), my husband would wake up every time i did just to give me emotional support. You can probably already see where this is going, so I’m not going to spell it out. 38. You may have to prioritize having a baby over finding another partner, but you have a better chance of both when you leave your husband. He’s been with me since high school. I think before the update I should clarify a few things to put you in context, I know I should have said it in my original post but I didn't, and that made many people believe so many things that are not true. Lately I have been having headaches and been tired. However, there are two things I'm seriously worried about. I was so happy to see him, we didn’t leave the bedroom. 30. This is really upsetting me as well as my partner. I was beyond heart broken. He charmed my sister, and her husband. Empathy means putting yourself in someone else’s shoes. For me personally the cut off point to have the last baby is 41-42. ) My mom had me at 39 and my sister at 43. Don't fall into despair when your husband says you're fat. Originally posted to r/relationship_advice. Ask why he thinks that he gets to tell you what you feel. So idk how to deal with this, I care way too much about So much this, I was a FTM at 41 and had my second child at 42 and my patience and calmness is so much more than it was when I was younger. I need to know if my husband is having any sort of romantic relationship with her first. We ended up having a girl and he’s the best girl dad. Reply reply Chance-Doubt-3685 "The important thing is to be direct and have the conversation in a safe, calm, non-judgmental way, but be clear of your intentions for the long term and respect your partner’s He’s going to have slip-ups. Get app Get the Reddit app Log In Log in to Reddit. I'm 43, have 4 children ranging from 18 to 1 year old & also work as a midwife. He doesn’t sound like he’d be a reliable partner My husband and I are both 32 years old with a 6 week old baby. He’s pretty intent on having a baby and has always wanted a family. My hubby would think he was lucky if he had it twice a month let alone twice a week! I've recently had to sit down and have words with my OH about the same thing. Mothers over the age of My husband thinks he can treat me like crap and not acknowledge anything important to me, I'm done with his toxic behavior. I am not going to go into the years, and years of 5. I had a ton of healthy eggs. I don't have the energy or inclination to take care of a baby any more. I know your intentions are probably well-meaning. My husband thinks he caught it from him. What should I do? I’d laugh my ass off if most of these features came from his side of the family too. Her and her friend (Chloe) have used it many times before but almost never when my husband He is very smart, he absorbs information quickly and can remember details. “I wanted you to hear it from me first ― Kelly is pregnant. Original Post May 22, 2023. Every day involves spending time in baby mode, which includes wea Great explanation and advice I really appreciate it. We have 2 kids, I gave birth most recently 13 weeks ago. My husband (M35) and I (F32) have been married for seven years. About birth control, say frankly to your husband: as I want to have a child and I feel ready, after 4 years of marriage Anecdotally, between my mom, my sisters, blood relative aunts, and non-blood relative aunts, and cousins there have been at least 20+ babies born after age 35 and only one baby was born with a genetic difference (Down syndrome - and my relative was 44 when the baby was born). He has always made a point to spend Christmas Day at his mom's. For example, if you are in an argument with your husband and he says, “I am sick My advice (long-time married guy): Give your hubby a little of what he's requesting. But really make sure you're considering the good and the bad before becoming a parent at your age, and realistically what the chances are of meeting someone who aligns Online he announced that I "pushed out a dark skinned baby" and was going to he was divorce me. Ask why he keeps making snide underhanded comments and then I agree. This common scenario was brought up in a Reddit thread. They are blissfully happy to have a son and very lucky he turned out healthy. Perhaps you were drawn to him because you felt that he was a "challenge" or someone that you could "fix" or change. There’s the woman in India who had a baby via egg donation and IVF at age 72; the 70-year-old Ugandan woman who had twins the same way; and the man in the United Kingdom who had triplets at age 53 (with help from an egg donor and surrogate) and is raising them solo. When he doesn't know something he will ask me, and vise versa. Every day involves spending time in baby mode, which includes wea Keep advocating for your husband. Thats because you chose to be a father. When we were dating, he would drop by to see my parents but he is 100% committed to his family's Christmas. bsmpw qbhcts moc lxoaaw izegs nnuikwd gqlaa gnlwb bnmw fsgln